Dear First Born:

I've always loved you best because you were our first miracle.  You were the genesis of a marriage and the fulfillment of young love.  You sustained us through the hamburger years, the first house (furnished in early poverty), our first mode of transportation, and the color TV we paid on for 36 months.  You were new, had unused grandparents, and enough clothes for a set of triplets.  You were the original model for a Mom and Dad who were trying to work the bugs out.  You got the strained liver, the open safety pins and three-hour naps.  You were the beginning.


 
 

Dear Middle Child:

I've always loved you best because you drew a tough spot in the family and it made you stronger for it.  You cried less, had more patience, wore faded hand-me-downs, and never in your life got anything first.  But it only made you more special.  You were the one we relaxed with and realized a dog could kiss you and you wouldn't get sick.  You could cross a street by yourself long before you were old enough to get married.  And you helped us understand the world wouldn't collapse if you went to bed with dirty feet.  You were the child of our busy, ambitious years.  Without you we never could have survived the job demands and the tedium and routine that is marriage.


 
 

To The Babies:

I've always loved you best because while endings are generally sad, you are such a joy.  You readily accepted the milk-stained bibs, the upper bunk, the cracked hockey stick, the baby book that had nothing written in it except a recipe for graham-cracker pie crust that someone had jammed between the pages.  You are the one we held onto so tightly.  You are the link with our past, a reason for tomorrow.   When your hairline takes on the shape of Lake Erie and your own children tower over you, you will still be our baby.
 


 

 
 
 
 
 
 

The above was given to me by my mother when I became a mother for the first time.  Thirty-five  years and four wonderful children later (ages 34 to 18) , I still read it to remind me that my children are the ones that shared the transitions of our life - and made us richer for it.  They darken our hair, quicken our steps, square our shoulders, restore our vision, and give us a sense of humor that security, that maturity and durability can't provide.  We held their hands as they came into this world as they shall hold ours when we leave it. 
 

 
 
 
 
 
 

 


 
 
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The music you are listening to is "Turn Around"

Lyrics:
Where are you goin' my little one, little one?
Where are you goin' my baby, my own?
Turn around and you're two
Turn around and you're four
Turn around and you're a young girl
Going out of the door

Where are you going' my little one, little one?
Little dirndles and petticoats, where have you gone?
Turn around and you're tiny
Turn around and you're grown
Turn around and you're a young wife
With babes of your own

Turn around
Turn around
Turn around and you're a young wife
With babes of your own